Tuesday, January 27, 2009

A slight collision

This is the third time me and hubby went back to our kampung since we got married. The first trip me and hubby went back to Rompin with my mother in law, sister in law and brother in law in one car, it was on Chinese new year. The second time we went back because of our wedding ceremony in Pekan, and this is the third time, only this time we're bringing Sofeah with us and also this would be the first time we planned the trip on our own which means neither parents were with us, just the three of us. It's something we looked forward to for months since hubby's grandma and my grandpa hasn't met Sofeah yet.

Our journey started very early on Saturday(on my birthday) morning. It was 4.35am. I woke earlier than usual because I need to do my pumping session then feed Sofeah and tidy up some stuffs that we want to bring with us. This was a fine morning so we thought. We do'a for a safe journey before departing. Hubby drove his usual speed not too fast or too slow whilst he listens to his favourite music. On the highway was a breeze. No worries about cars over taking and also cars that wanted to make left or right turns whenever they like.

After the 45 minutes drive on the highway we then had to use roads with one lanes on each side. It is very dangerous to overtake whenever you like. Your timing is crucial. If you get the calculations wrong you might end up in a fatal accident that can take your life in a split second. Anyway, hubby drove very carefully on these narrow roads. Overtaking when it's safe enough. I as usual when he over takes will look the other way as I'm scared and when he's in the right lane again I'll look back on the road.

We stopped at a huge mosque and did our Subuh prayer. We had to take turns because one of us has to look after Sofeah. After everything settled and we took off again. It was in the last thirty minutes of our journey that this unexpected event happened. Hubby sang to his favourite song. He did not overtake but he slowed down because the vehicle in front of him somewhat drove a little bit peculiar. Hubby even said "macam pelik jer lori ni" and in a split second the lorry seemed to be closer to us and hubby braked abruptly and the tire screeched against the road then came the loud bang. Our car hit the lorry in front. I was shocked and I turned towards Sofeah. Thank God she was OK. She was awake at that time and playing with her toys in her car seat joyfully as if something never happened. Quickly hubby parked the car aside and angrily confronted the lorry driver. It seems that that driver did not signaled as he wanted to make a right turn and also his brakes were very dim and it is unnoticeable until you are about 1 meter from the lorry.The place where the accident occurred was at a secluded place. Not many cars use this road. Either it's because it was too early in the morning or it's this narrow road where people prefer the highway instead. So anyway I tried to contact my parents and my mother in law about the accident but there was no signal. I had to walk a little bit further up the road away form where hubby and the lorry driver was. I couldn't leave Sofeah alone So I walked up the road while carrying Sofeah. It was intense. I mean the situation where I was in shocked and I did not know what to do also we were at a foreign place alone. I panicked a little. Fortunately the driver agreed to settle everything at a police station nearby.

As we arrived at the police station I let hubby settle what needed to be. I carried Sofeah and walked around the police station because she didn't want to sit in the car. As I talked to Sofeah and carrying her around a policewoman approached me, we had a lot to chat about as I found out that she too had a son around the same age as Sofeah. Everyone at the police station was friendly which is good as some aren't that friendly and more cranky.

Hubby drove back to Rompin slowly and very carefully. We don't want anything else happening to the already rammed up car.

Even though the accident occur which none of us would want to happen, I still am grateful because we are safe (Alhamdulillah), no one was injured physically nor mentally. The car can still be driven even though the boot look absolutely hideous. If you'd seen it you'll think twice, how could this car can still be on the road. With this hideous looking car we reached Rompin which is 30 minutes drive from the point of the accident, then the next day drove of to Pekan(an hour drive), in the evening we drove off to Kg. New Zealand (one and a half hours drive)then the next day which is Monday we drove back to Kelana Jaya(two hours plus). It is a miracle that we came back safely with the car.

On our way to Pekan there was a car being pulled out of a river. By the state of the car it made me wonder how the passengers inside survived the crash. Coincidentally, the victims were sent to a hospital in Pekan where my grandmother was taken because of an emergency case as well. What I heard about their injury was scary. It haunted me and somewhat traumatize me, it made me think that the crash could have been worse than it is. I kept on thinking it could have been us and at the same time I really am grateful we survived the crash the day before.

I'd say this is the most memorable birthday I've ever had. I had the most meaningful gift ever which is my hubby and daughter still with me today. For the drivers out there please be careful when you're driving, sometimes it just happens even though it's not your fault in the first place.



Thursday, January 8, 2009

Tagged by krsty~

Something I do if I'm bored..hehe..curi mase keje..ishk2~

TAG 1
1. The rules of the game get posted at the beginning
2. Each player answers the questions about themselves
3. At the end of the post the player then tags 4 people and posts their names, then goes to their blogs and leaves a comment, letting them know they got tagged and to ask them to play and read your blog

Name : Faridatul, kaklong, hon bun, syg, Ummi(proud to be one)
Sisters : 2 (kakngah n kakcik)
Brothers : 2 (man n nan)
Shoe size : 4-5
Height : 149cm
Where do you live : Kelana Jaya
Have you ever been on a plane : yup to London, Newcastle, Pahang n Penang(last 2 years)
Swam in the ocean : owh no.
Fallen asleep at school : haha..tons of time
Broken someone’s heart : yup..and not sorry..hmm
Fell off your chair : nope..
Sat by the phone all night waiting for someone to call : ahaha..couldn't careless..I'll just go to sleep on my comfy bed..
Saved e-mails : I have over 1000 e-mails..mostly from hubby(we mail to each other during work..hehe)
What is your room like : Simple (a bed, 2 bedside table, a wardrobe, a dressing table together with a stool, hubby's desktop, Sofeah's Cot and Sofeah's chest of drawers)
What’s right beside you: my colleague..hehe
What is the last thing you ate : chocolate twiggies..nyum2 (it,s my breakfast)

Ever had…
Chicken pox : of course
Sore throat : rarely have them
Stitches : just had them 2 months ago after delivering Sofeah..hehe(the pain is unbearable..uuuhhhh)
Broken nose : close to it..heh..(hurts like hell, my sister was scolded by my parents..haha-i think it was myfault really)

Do you Believe in love at first sight : yea, that's how i met hubby..
Like picnics : of course..who doesn't?

Who was/were…
The last person you danced with : hubby of course..haha..i literally forced him to dance with me
Last made you smile : hubby, n my cute baby Sofeah
You last yelled at : no one..hehe..

Today did you…
Talk to someone you like : sure..talk to him n her everyday..hubby n Sofeah
Kissed anyone : hubby n Sofeah(kiss them goodbye before going to work..huhue)
Get sick : hmm not recently
Talk to an ex : ahaha..nope..
Miss someone : hubby n my lovely daughter Sofeah

Who do you really hate: no one..
Do you like your hand-writing : a big no,no
Are your toe nails painted : nope
Whose bed other than yours would you rather sleep in : Sofeah?..haha..kidding, couldn't fit into her tiny cot
What color shirt are you wearing now : not wearing one..i'm wearing a baju kurung
Are you a friendly person : Sure am
Do you have any pets : nope..to be honest I dun like them..heh
Do you sleep with the TV on : seldomly, if I'm sleepy I'll always sleep on my comfy bed hugging Sofeah
What are you doing right now : ignoring the pile of work I have...hehe
Can you handle the truth : depends on what truth that need to be told..usually can
Are you closer to your mother or father : my mother
Do you eat healthy : yup..i need to..still eating for two..for Sofeah
Do you still have pictures of you & your ex : noo..
If you’re having a bad day, who are you most likely to go to : hubby, otherwise I'll just sleep
Are you loud or quiet most of the time : quiet i think
Are you confident : sure am

5 things I was doing 10 years ago :-
1. Studied at IIUM
2. Got to know n marry him hubby
3. Graduated from IIUM
4. Moved out from parents house into our own apartment
5. Got pregnant and delivered a beautiful baby girl named Sofeah

5 things I would do if I were a billionaire :-
1. Sedekah to the needy
2. Perform Hajj with hubby
3. open up my own bakery(yes it's my dream)
4. Buy baby stuff
5. Honeymoon in Paris

5 of my bad habits :-
1. Like to waste time
2. procastinator
3. always think negative
4. Bite my nails
5. keeps on forgetting things

5 places I’ve lived/living :-
1. Kuantan, Pahang, Malaysia
2. Bandar Baru Bangi, Selangor, Malaysia
3. Colchester, Essex, England
4. Benwell, Newcastle, England
5. Kelana Jaya, Selangor, Malaysia

4 peep to tag this survey :-
1. wun
2. Anis
3. Diana
4. Shasha

Monday, December 29, 2008

Me n cooking?

Yeah, I admit I'm one of those people who cannot cook. When I told my father I wanted to get married the first time his reaction was "nak kawen?masak pon tak pandai lagi. Belajar masak dulu" (u want to get married? you can't even cook. Learn to cook first - direct translation..hehe). From then on I tried to learn but still lazy to observe my mum when she's in the kitchen. Everytime she cooks I'll only take note the basic things in cooking such as put cooking oil in the hot pan first then some onions and maybe chillies, well something like that. And what comes after I couldn't careless.

Now that I'm married cooking is obligatory. Eating outside is soo much expensive nowadays eventhough the petrol is cheaper then before. When we go for grocery shopping I'm in charge because I'm the one who will do the cooking. Hubby just follow and sometimes if he feels like cooking something he'll put his ingredients in the trolly.

Everytime I have to cook I'll think hard on what to cook for the night. Asking hubby is no use because he'll answer back the same thing everytime "masak pape jer. I makan jer sume" (just cook anything. I eat anything). You see hubby is the easiest man ever when it comes to food. He'll just eat anything no matter what I cook even though it does not taste that good most of the time it would be my cooking.

I don't have any specific recipe everytime I cook it is because we don't have that many ingredients stocked up in the kitchen. Everything is limited. You see I'm still in the proces of learning after one year of marriage. So when I need to cook I'll just keep on adding stuff which I think will add something to the taste. It would always take me an hour to finish up cooking because of this. Cooking while figuring out what to put in next not to mention me tasting it everytime.

The point is, no one really needs to learn how to cook. when the time comes that you need to do it you'll know what and how to do it. Cook books just make everything complicated with the measurements an all. Just be creative in the kitchen. Let your taste buds run wild and you'll be suprise with the outcome. That's what I've learnt.

Friday, December 12, 2008

Me, Sofeah & Work...


So this is my daily routine and it will remain the same until I start work again. At 5 a.m Sofeah will wake me up because it's her feeding time and i will go back to sleep when she's done usually around 5.45am. By 6.30am hubby will wake me up for subuh prayer and I'll stay awake until hubby goes to work by this time Sofeah is awake again. And again I'll feed her until 8 a.m. after that I need to bathe her and put her clothes on. Done with this part I'll leave her for a while to hang some clothes out in the balcony. Usually whilst I'm doing this Sofeah will always be awake and sometimes she plays alone or cry a little bit because she knows I'm not around her. She hated being alone but most of my time I'll be with her. Other times I even play with her even though I know she does not understand a word I'm saying.

By me mentioning my daily routine is not to bore you people reading this it's just the fact that I'm getting use to this routine and I'm afraid of getting back to work. I spend 95 percent of my day with Sofeah and I know I'll miss her soo much. Every single day I'll learn a new thing about her and she also learns a lot as she is awake most of the time. When she is sleeping I miss her and when she's awake I want her to sleep. Funny eh.

How I wish I don't have to work but I can't let hubby feed the family by himself either. So I'm force to work to pay debts,bills and the house rent. Not that we have that many debts but at the same time we don't want it to mount either. I can't imagine the feeling leaving Sofeah at home one day. Even now if I leave Sofeah alone in another room I'll feel guilty for not being there with her and tears will trickle down my cheeks. I think about her all the time.

There are times when it is hard for her to sleep either because she does not feel well or she just force herself to stay awake. During these time I feel restless trying to get her to sleep. At one time I even cried together with her not knowing what she wants and why is it so difficult for her to sleep. I did everything from checking her diaper to giving her gripe water for colic. Nothing seems to work. True says hubby that sometimes we need a time off from her or else we might go crazy, by this he means us going to work. No one can really last taking care of a baby alone 24-7. We might loose our sanity even. That is why when a women who are in their confinement should never left alone with a baby for a long period or else they might go bonkers or the Malays call it 'meroyan' I think. this is why I salute to all housewives out there.

Despite the fact that sometimes I may be exhausted taking care of Sofeah but in the end it is all worth it. Looking at her very cute face every time made me think have I taken care of her good enough? Is she happy? or Am I a good mother?

Moving on, my preparation before going back to work again. I have to prepare mentally as well as physically. I have to get use to leaving Sofeah and not seeing her for long hours. I also have to make sure that I leave enough milk for her for the day and so I better start pumping and stock up milk in the freezer.I have to wake up extra early to feed her and start my first pumping session and thank god I have plenty of milk to feed her. My office hour ends at 4.30 pm so I don't have to go through the bad traffic on the road. Even though the office hour starts at 8.30am I still have to be there by 7.45am for free parking otherwise I'll have to pay Rm4 for parking. Usually we leave the house by 7 am.

All in all it's going to be difficult for me to leave her. I don't want to be those parents who only see their child at night and weekends only. I don't want to come home when Sofeah is already asleep and she can't recognize me anymore. I want to know my child and in the future children more. I want to know their likes and dislike. I don't want to miss out on them growing up. I just want to be a mother who cares for their children and not abandon them, but I'm afraid I might turn into parents that I don't want to be. I pray to Gad each day that I won't be just like any other parents.

Right now I just want to spend all of my time that I have left with her which is 2 weeks left. I really am gonna miss her. The cute smile, the cute faces she makes and everything about her. I love you soo much Sofeah..

Friday, December 5, 2008

Why consuming soy milk are harmful for babies?

It all started when I read my friend's blog about soy milk. Well she did write regarding what people say about soy milk and not of what I intended to write here. What caught my attention was that she mentioned there are a number of people(mostly the malay society) believed by drinking soy milk during pregnancy, you will have a baby of a fairer skin(I guess that's like what everyone wants by believing in such thing). My personal view is that I do not believe it's true. The colour of the skin is genetic really.

Moving on, there are many research done regarding soy milk and the dangers of soy milk. In the US, a vegan parent fed their newborn baby only soy milk, apple juice and a small amount of breast milk. Six weeks later the baby died because of insufficient nutrients. The parents were sent to jail.

According to research, soy milk were proven to have caused growth problem in children, infertility and breast cancer to women also in infants it has been linked to autoimmune thyroid disease.

Soy milk also increases the body's requirement for vitamin D. It absorbs the vitamin D thus leaving a small amount behind for the body. Newborns require a lot of vitamin D for it's system and a low amount of vitamin D will result to jaundice.

There are some parent out there who substitute breast milk or formula milk with soy milk for their infants because their babies are allergic to these type of milk. Studies have shown by giving them only soy milk will only do harm to infants as it has a chemical called genistein which can cause damage the intestinal growth in babies.

Pregnant women can drink soy milk but in a moderate manner as it can disrupt the endocrine to function and also the potential to cause infertility as well as promote breast cancer due to the substance that is in the soy called phytoestrogens. This amount of estrogens contained in soy milk is equivalent of at least five birth control pill per day. Premature development of girls and also the underdevelopment of males were linked to the consumption of soy milk.

Breast milk is the best milk for babies under the age of 6 months. Therefore mothers should always bare in mind that breast milk is the best milk to feed their newborns and if they can not produce breast milk only then they can opt for formula milk and avoid feeding them soy milk whether it is fresh or formula. Both are equally harmful to babies. Moreover babies who are breastfed exclusively are proven to have better functioning immune systems as well as added protection against heart disease, eczema, asma, respiratory infection and the list goes on.

My intention of writing this entry is to give an awareness to all mothers out there about the dangers of soy and also to promote breast milk at the same time. If you are able to feed your child with breast milk please do so. Allah has given women the best milk for their babies for a reason and if you love your little ones please give your child the best milk in the world~

Smile Alwayz =)




Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Sofeah Going bald~

Visit this blog and see the pictures of Sofeah going bald..hehe

http://sofeahsmemoir.blogspot.com/

She's Soo cute..cuter when she's bald

Ayah n Ummi love u soo much..

Smile Alwayz =)

Friday, November 28, 2008

Training bagi EBM

Alhamdulillah hari ni Sofeah minum dalam 4oz susu. Senang hati saya. Biasanya Sofeah tak suka minum susu EBM. Kali ni dia minum dengan banyak sekali. Nak kena biasakan dia dengan minum susu dari botol ni. Tinggal lagi sebulan sahaja saya akan mula bekerja semula.

Sebelum ini saya pernah bagi juga EBM tapi Sofeah muntahkan semula. Hari ni baik pulak dia minum je. Itu pun setelah saya tukar strategi. Instead of bagi susu yang dari freezer(kebiasaanya susu yang telah saya pam saya akan masukkan dalam freezer terus, bile nk minum malam sebelumnya saya akan alihkan susu dari dalam freezer dan masuk dalam fridge so the next day takde la susu tu beku) tapi kali ni susu yang telah saya pam saya musukkan dalam fridge sahaja. takde la susu tu beku. So terbukti sekarang ni Sofeah suke minum susu yang fresh sahaja.

Selepas minum ada la dia muntah jugak, ini biasa. Kalau dia minum straight from the source pon sama jugak. Dia terlebih minum tu tandanya. Saya akan teruskan usaha supaya Sofeah boleh terima EBM dengan lebih baik lagi. Nak panaskan susu EBM ni pon saya kene belajar juga untuk dapat suhu yang sesuai untuk Sofeah minum. Tak terlalu panas mahupun tak terlalu sejuk. Apabila saya dah mahir saya perlu ajar mak mertua saya pula since dia yang akan jaga Sofeah nanti.

EBM (Expressed breast milk) = susu ibu yang di pam

Smile Alwayz =)

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