Monday, December 29, 2008

Me n cooking?

Yeah, I admit I'm one of those people who cannot cook. When I told my father I wanted to get married the first time his reaction was "nak kawen?masak pon tak pandai lagi. Belajar masak dulu" (u want to get married? you can't even cook. Learn to cook first - direct translation..hehe). From then on I tried to learn but still lazy to observe my mum when she's in the kitchen. Everytime she cooks I'll only take note the basic things in cooking such as put cooking oil in the hot pan first then some onions and maybe chillies, well something like that. And what comes after I couldn't careless.

Now that I'm married cooking is obligatory. Eating outside is soo much expensive nowadays eventhough the petrol is cheaper then before. When we go for grocery shopping I'm in charge because I'm the one who will do the cooking. Hubby just follow and sometimes if he feels like cooking something he'll put his ingredients in the trolly.

Everytime I have to cook I'll think hard on what to cook for the night. Asking hubby is no use because he'll answer back the same thing everytime "masak pape jer. I makan jer sume" (just cook anything. I eat anything). You see hubby is the easiest man ever when it comes to food. He'll just eat anything no matter what I cook even though it does not taste that good most of the time it would be my cooking.

I don't have any specific recipe everytime I cook it is because we don't have that many ingredients stocked up in the kitchen. Everything is limited. You see I'm still in the proces of learning after one year of marriage. So when I need to cook I'll just keep on adding stuff which I think will add something to the taste. It would always take me an hour to finish up cooking because of this. Cooking while figuring out what to put in next not to mention me tasting it everytime.

The point is, no one really needs to learn how to cook. when the time comes that you need to do it you'll know what and how to do it. Cook books just make everything complicated with the measurements an all. Just be creative in the kitchen. Let your taste buds run wild and you'll be suprise with the outcome. That's what I've learnt.

Friday, December 12, 2008

Me, Sofeah & Work...

So this is my daily routine and it will remain the same until I start work again. At 5 a.m Sofeah will wake me up because it's her feeding time and i will go back to sleep when she's done usually around 5.45am. By 6.30am hubby will wake me up for subuh prayer and I'll stay awake until hubby goes to work by this time Sofeah is awake again. And again I'll feed her until 8 a.m. after that I need to bathe her and put her clothes on. Done with this part I'll leave her for a while to hang some clothes out in the balcony. Usually whilst I'm doing this Sofeah will always be awake and sometimes she plays alone or cry a little bit because she knows I'm not around her. She hated being alone but most of my time I'll be with her. Other times I even play with her even though I know she does not understand a word I'm saying.

By me mentioning my daily routine is not to bore you people reading this it's just the fact that I'm getting use to this routine and I'm afraid of getting back to work. I spend 95 percent of my day with Sofeah and I know I'll miss her soo much. Every single day I'll learn a new thing about her and she also learns a lot as she is awake most of the time. When she is sleeping I miss her and when she's awake I want her to sleep. Funny eh.

How I wish I don't have to work but I can't let hubby feed the family by himself either. So I'm force to work to pay debts,bills and the house rent. Not that we have that many debts but at the same time we don't want it to mount either. I can't imagine the feeling leaving Sofeah at home one day. Even now if I leave Sofeah alone in another room I'll feel guilty for not being there with her and tears will trickle down my cheeks. I think about her all the time.

There are times when it is hard for her to sleep either because she does not feel well or she just force herself to stay awake. During these time I feel restless trying to get her to sleep. At one time I even cried together with her not knowing what she wants and why is it so difficult for her to sleep. I did everything from checking her diaper to giving her gripe water for colic. Nothing seems to work. True says hubby that sometimes we need a time off from her or else we might go crazy, by this he means us going to work. No one can really last taking care of a baby alone 24-7. We might loose our sanity even. That is why when a women who are in their confinement should never left alone with a baby for a long period or else they might go bonkers or the Malays call it 'meroyan' I think. this is why I salute to all housewives out there.

Despite the fact that sometimes I may be exhausted taking care of Sofeah but in the end it is all worth it. Looking at her very cute face every time made me think have I taken care of her good enough? Is she happy? or Am I a good mother?

Moving on, my preparation before going back to work again. I have to prepare mentally as well as physically. I have to get use to leaving Sofeah and not seeing her for long hours. I also have to make sure that I leave enough milk for her for the day and so I better start pumping and stock up milk in the freezer.I have to wake up extra early to feed her and start my first pumping session and thank god I have plenty of milk to feed her. My office hour ends at 4.30 pm so I don't have to go through the bad traffic on the road. Even though the office hour starts at 8.30am I still have to be there by 7.45am for free parking otherwise I'll have to pay Rm4 for parking. Usually we leave the house by 7 am.

All in all it's going to be difficult for me to leave her. I don't want to be those parents who only see their child at night and weekends only. I don't want to come home when Sofeah is already asleep and she can't recognize me anymore. I want to know my child and in the future children more. I want to know their likes and dislike. I don't want to miss out on them growing up. I just want to be a mother who cares for their children and not abandon them, but I'm afraid I might turn into parents that I don't want to be. I pray to Gad each day that I won't be just like any other parents.

Right now I just want to spend all of my time that I have left with her which is 2 weeks left. I really am gonna miss her. The cute smile, the cute faces she makes and everything about her. I love you soo much Sofeah..

Friday, December 5, 2008

Why consuming soy milk are harmful for babies?

It all started when I read my friend's blog about soy milk. Well she did write regarding what people say about soy milk and not of what I intended to write here. What caught my attention was that she mentioned there are a number of people(mostly the malay society) believed by drinking soy milk during pregnancy, you will have a baby of a fairer skin(I guess that's like what everyone wants by believing in such thing). My personal view is that I do not believe it's true. The colour of the skin is genetic really.

Moving on, there are many research done regarding soy milk and the dangers of soy milk. In the US, a vegan parent fed their newborn baby only soy milk, apple juice and a small amount of breast milk. Six weeks later the baby died because of insufficient nutrients. The parents were sent to jail.

According to research, soy milk were proven to have caused growth problem in children, infertility and breast cancer to women also in infants it has been linked to autoimmune thyroid disease.

Soy milk also increases the body's requirement for vitamin D. It absorbs the vitamin D thus leaving a small amount behind for the body. Newborns require a lot of vitamin D for it's system and a low amount of vitamin D will result to jaundice.

There are some parent out there who substitute breast milk or formula milk with soy milk for their infants because their babies are allergic to these type of milk. Studies have shown by giving them only soy milk will only do harm to infants as it has a chemical called genistein which can cause damage the intestinal growth in babies.

Pregnant women can drink soy milk but in a moderate manner as it can disrupt the endocrine to function and also the potential to cause infertility as well as promote breast cancer due to the substance that is in the soy called phytoestrogens. This amount of estrogens contained in soy milk is equivalent of at least five birth control pill per day. Premature development of girls and also the underdevelopment of males were linked to the consumption of soy milk.

Breast milk is the best milk for babies under the age of 6 months. Therefore mothers should always bare in mind that breast milk is the best milk to feed their newborns and if they can not produce breast milk only then they can opt for formula milk and avoid feeding them soy milk whether it is fresh or formula. Both are equally harmful to babies. Moreover babies who are breastfed exclusively are proven to have better functioning immune systems as well as added protection against heart disease, eczema, asma, respiratory infection and the list goes on.

My intention of writing this entry is to give an awareness to all mothers out there about the dangers of soy and also to promote breast milk at the same time. If you are able to feed your child with breast milk please do so. Allah has given women the best milk for their babies for a reason and if you love your little ones please give your child the best milk in the world~

Smile Alwayz =)

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Sofeah Going bald~

Visit this blog and see the pictures of Sofeah going bald..hehe

She's Soo cute..cuter when she's bald

Ayah n Ummi love u soo much..

Smile Alwayz =)

Friday, November 28, 2008

Training bagi EBM

Alhamdulillah hari ni Sofeah minum dalam 4oz susu. Senang hati saya. Biasanya Sofeah tak suka minum susu EBM. Kali ni dia minum dengan banyak sekali. Nak kena biasakan dia dengan minum susu dari botol ni. Tinggal lagi sebulan sahaja saya akan mula bekerja semula.

Sebelum ini saya pernah bagi juga EBM tapi Sofeah muntahkan semula. Hari ni baik pulak dia minum je. Itu pun setelah saya tukar strategi. Instead of bagi susu yang dari freezer(kebiasaanya susu yang telah saya pam saya akan masukkan dalam freezer terus, bile nk minum malam sebelumnya saya akan alihkan susu dari dalam freezer dan masuk dalam fridge so the next day takde la susu tu beku) tapi kali ni susu yang telah saya pam saya musukkan dalam fridge sahaja. takde la susu tu beku. So terbukti sekarang ni Sofeah suke minum susu yang fresh sahaja.

Selepas minum ada la dia muntah jugak, ini biasa. Kalau dia minum straight from the source pon sama jugak. Dia terlebih minum tu tandanya. Saya akan teruskan usaha supaya Sofeah boleh terima EBM dengan lebih baik lagi. Nak panaskan susu EBM ni pon saya kene belajar juga untuk dapat suhu yang sesuai untuk Sofeah minum. Tak terlalu panas mahupun tak terlalu sejuk. Apabila saya dah mahir saya perlu ajar mak mertua saya pula since dia yang akan jaga Sofeah nanti.

EBM (Expressed breast milk) = susu ibu yang di pam

Smile Alwayz =)

Saat cemas~

Semalam genap sebulan umur Sofeah. Ummi dah ayah tak tahu ape kebolehan Sofeah pada umurnye. Nak dijadikan cerita, malam semalam kami menonton televisyen sampai pukul sepuluh. Sofeah tdo lena atas tilam dia yang empuk tu seperti biasa. Sebelum masuk tidur saya dan ayahnya masuk bilik dulu untuk siap-siapkan tempat tidur. Ayahnya solat sementara saya duduk depan komputer sekejap. Selepas ayahnya selesai solat, berborak la kami berdua. Tengah berborak tu dengar la sofeah merengek(biasa la dia kalau tidur memang tak pernah senyap). Saya dah ayahnya tidak pedulikan lagi dan sambung berborak.

Tiba-tiba tergerak hati saya untuk check keadaan Sofeah. Ya Allah terkejut saya apabila nampak Sofeah jatuh dari tilamnya. Bederau darah saya. Takut jugak la ape2 jadi kat dia. Kepala terhantuk ke ape. Terbaring la sofeah atas lantai, matanya terbuka luas pandang atas. Saya nampak dia macam tu terus saya jerit dan angkat dia. Saya peluk dia sambil mata berair. Perasaan saya masa tu tuhan saja yang tahu. Macam-macam saya pikir. Macam mane la die boleh jatuh. Budak umur dia dah boleh bergolek ke? nasib tak tinggi.

Masa nak tidur pon saya asyik terpikir balik kejadian itu. Budak kecik at that age kepala dia sensitif lagi. Tak boleh terhentak sangat. Saya ada baca pasal budak jatuh buai dan keadaanya agak kritikal disebabkan hentakan yang kuat pada kepalanya. Risau saya dibuatnya.

Pagi tadi pon sama juga. Saya letak dia sebentar atas tilam tu sambil saya sidai kain kat balcony. Kejap saja. saya boleh nampak dia dari cermin sliding door tu. Disebab ralit sangat buat keje tak sedar ape sofeah buat kat dalam sebab sangkakan dia tido. Bila saya toleh tengok Sofeah saya nampak kepala dia dah jatuh dari tilam badan senget atas tilam. Berlari saya masuk angkat dia. "Ya Allah, lasaknya anak dara aku ni tido" Saya pulak tak belajar dari kesilapan semalam.

Sekarang ini saya sedar bahawa saya tak boleh tinggalkan dia sorang-sorang walaupun sekejap saja. Kena mengawasi dia setiap waktu. Selepas ini tak boleh biar Sofeah tido sendiri. Kene ade orang jaga. Menyesal saya tinggalkan dia sendirian.~

~Maafkan ummi ye Sofeah~

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Me being paranoid~

Is it just me or it's a common thing among first time mothers. I think I'm paranoid at least hubby things so. The thing is I worry too much of every little thing that happens to Sofeah. Am I being negative? I don't think so. I think it's just normal for a mother to worry about their child sometimes.

It all started when my daughter was diagnosed with jaundice. From then on I kept on worrying if the fever never did tone down. I could not tell the difference in the tone colour of Sofeah's skin or the colour of her eyeballs. Sometimes I just think that I'm seeing things or rather I think I'm colour blind now. There are times when I see like Sofeah's lips a little bit pale or her skin tone is a little bit dark or sometimes red. It worries me. Maybe there's just something wrong with me eyes that I'm seeing all these colour tones.

I also have this habit whenever Sofeah sleeps I will touch her or rather check on her from time to time to see whether she's breathing or not. Crazy eh~ I think so too. But I just can't help it. Maybe because everything's just new.

Like any other newborns, Sofeah have colic problems from time to time. This worries me a little bit. Sometimes you can see her bloated stomach and know that it hurts because she will cry and when she sleeps she does not sleep well, she'll make sounds and also moves a lot like she's not comfortable. Me and hubby did some research on the net and we might want to test giving gripe water to Sofeah. Since I breastfeed her, I too have to watch out what I'm eating. Otherwise Sofeah will suffer and I do not want that. I would do anything for my beloved daughter.

It's normal right? I mean for a mother to worry about their child. Especially when it's a newborn. But to worry too much is not good I guess.

So, Smile Alwayz and tawakkal saja selepas berusaha.. =)

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

I miss pregnancy~

One night as me and hubby were having dinner, Hubby suddenly asked me "Do u miss being pregnant?" at first I thought, why should I, I have a lovely daughter now. But then when I think back, I do miss it.

After going through nine months of pregnancy how could I not miss it. During those time I had a life in me. The life that is always with me all the time. I talk to it from time to time. When I'm sad, scared or sometimes a little bit emotional when hubby does something and I would always feel better after talking with the baby inside me whilst rubbing my belly. I love it whenever the baby gives a respond like kicking or punching me or whenever she moves her head it tickles me because of her hair. I love the feeling of being pregnant. I really do miss it.

When I read up my friends blog about them still going through pregnancy. It made me somewhat jealous a little bit. I want that feeling back. Sometimes.

Now that the life has come out of me, I feel really happy. Even though I miss those days being pregnant but having Sofeah now is even more joyful. The feeling of being pregnant is very beautiful. I really can not describe how. If you want to know how beautiful it is, try it(secara halal la ye). For men out there, too bad that you can not get pregnant and feel the beauty of it all.hehe

Can't wait for the next pregnancy experience to come. Insya'Allah jika ada rezeki. But I have to wait another 2 years for that, as my body needs to recover fully first.

To Sofeah, Ummi loves you soo much. You're the most beautiful thing that had ever happened to ummi and ayah. I love you from the moment you were in me. Thank you for giving me the chance of growing you inside me and for being there with me for the past nine months~

Smile Always =)

Monday, November 17, 2008

My fears~

As a normal human being I do have fears being a first time mother. I fear that I could not take care of Sofeah the way she should be taken care of. Am I doing the right thing?, is this how you take care of a baby?,what if she falls sick?it will be my fault if anything happens to her. But there are some things some times we can not get away with like Sofeah getting jaundice on her sixth day being born into this world.

I cried when she was diagnosed with jaundice. I worried sick for her health. I guess I was scared at the time and being a first time mother I did not know what to do. Hubby sent her to the clinic, I was unable to go with them as I had to go to tukang urut's house. During this time only god knows how worried I was of my newborn. I did not know what to expect and how badly her jaundice was.

When hubby got back we decided to go to SJMC for a second opinion on whether Sofeah should get admitted or not for phototheraphy. The results came - she did not need phototherapy but we have to take precautions. Expose her to sunlight but not direct sunlight as the sun rays nowadays are bad for babies. As I was breastfeeding Sofeah I also need to be careful with what I eat. I could not eat anything that has kunyit, halia, jamu or anything that is considered hot for the body or has yellow colour in them as it will make the fever worse. I had to take multivitamins especially those that has loads of vitamin D in them.

Jaundice occurs when a baby's heart is premature and a type of pigment called bilirubin built up in the baby's blood faster than the kidney could process.

Women of blood group 'O positive' their babies are more prone to have jaundice as compared to other blood groups. But then again according to the doctors that we have consulted, a lot of babies that is born today would most probably get jaundice because of the environment today.

Mothers should drink goat's milk (never give it directly to the baby as it would make the baby's guts lining thinner) and also as a last measure of cure, as in our case, we gave the baby mandian sinsei which you can get from a Chinese medicine shop(3 kali mandian).I also took multivitamins, goat's milk tablets(since we did not know where to buy fresh goat's milk) and I breastfeed Sofeah every two hours as breast milk is said to be the best medicine for jaundice.

A precaution for women out there whom are currently pregnant should try drinking goat's milk during their last months of pregnancy and also a lot of bendi (lady finger?).Insya'Allah your baby will not get jaundice (do ask your pediatrician for preventive measures - prevention is better than cure).

My second fear is the stitches that I have. I do not know how long it takes for it to cure. It still does hurt from time to time. I fear that the wound would split open without me knowing. I do not want to look at it as I'm scared. Sometimes to even clean it up I would not touch that part I just dap it with facial cotton. I soo badly want to know what it looks like. It might not be as bad as I think it is but I do not have the courage yet. I just can't wait for the doctors appointment. If the doctor say that the cut is looking good then maybe I will have a look at it myself. for the time being I'm praying that it is ok.

Then the other fear of whether my body can recover fully from giving. I've read about "rahim jatuh" and all. Since I do not do the traditional way of healing the womb such as "bertungku", eat jamu, message and so on, I fear it might happen. When the old people say about "sistem peranakan" and how we should take care of it, I feel like I'm lacking this part and in the future I might regret of not listening to these people.

I worry too much that is why I have all these fears. All in all I have to think positive and doa to Allah so that everything will be alright.

Smile Alwayz =)

Friday, November 14, 2008

Suamiku yang banyak membantu~

Terima Kasih kepada suamiku yang banyak membantu semasa berpantang. Banyak dia buat. Dari mandikan Sofeah, pakaikan baju Sofeah, tukarkan lampin Sofeah sehingga basuh baju Sofeah tiap-tiap hari walaupun penat bekerja seharian kalau dia mampu menyusukan Sofeah pun dia sanggup buat semata-mata kesiankan saya yang masih lagi dalam proses penyembuhan.

Kadang-kadang apabila tengok suami tidur, saya kesiankan dia sebab penat dengan membuat macam-macam kerja di rumah ini. Pernah juga saya menangis sebab tidak dapat nak kurangkan beban dia. Ikutkan hati nak tolong sangat dia. Tapi badan saya tidak mengizinkan, selalu saja sakit belakang. Ada masa kalau dia tidak menguruskan saya dan Sofeah, dia akan sibuk mengemas rumah pula. Tak reti duduk diam betul la suami saya ni. Sudah beberapa kali saya cakap tak payah buat tapi die tetap berdegil.

Dulu semasa saya kurang sihat dia lah yang siapkan bengkung untuk saya, ikatkan bengkung dan juga air mandian saya. Tetapi sekarang saya sudah sihat sedikit saya buat sendiri untuk ringankan beban dia. Bukannya apa, keesokan paginya dia perlu pergi kerja dan taknak la penatkan dia sangat. Karang sakit pulak dia. Itu pun dia tetap berdegil juga hendak siapkan air mandian saya tiap-tiap pagi sebelum pergi kerja sampai tak sempat bersarapan tapi nasib baik dia akan bersarapan jua di ofis. Sudah la begitu banyak keje kene buat. Tengah-tengah malam pun kadang-kadang dia berjaga dikala Sofeah menangis hendak menyusu. Setiap dua jam Sofeah akan bangun(seperti sudah tahu routine dia menyusu).

Sekarang saya sudah pulih sedikit saya ambil alih kerja mandikan Sofeah tiap-tiap pagi, tukar lampin dan sudah buat sedikit demi sedikit kerja rumah. Pernah juga saya membasuh baju Sofeah tetapi suami tidak berapa suka dengan tindakan saya sebab dia kata tu kerja dia, sekarang memang dia lah yang basuh kain baju Sofeah tiap-tiap hari. Bahagian memasak belum lagi saya buat setakat ini. Part ni saya perlu berterima kasih kepada Ibu dan mak mertua saya. Ada masa suami saya yang masak jika kami bertiga saja yang ada di rumah. Ada masa juga adik ipar saya yang masak. Terima Kasih ya~

Penat juga suami tercinta saya tu. Kena jaga isteri dan juga anak tersayang. Terima Kasih Sayangku~ Sofeah pun sama mengucapkan 'Terima kasih Ayah, Sofeah sayang Ayah'~

Thursday, November 13, 2008

Anakku Sofeah budak baik~

Sofeah akan menangis apabila dia hendak menyusu, itu pon tidak berapa kuat.

Sofeah akan menjerit jika air sejuk. Kalau tidak Sofeah suka mandi.

Sofeah akan senyum jika dia hendak melepaskan angin dan juga membuang air besar.

Jika sofeah tersedu dia akan terus menghisap susu tanpa menghiraukan sedu.

Itu lah dia anakku Sofeah.

Ayah dan Ummi sentisa sayangkan kamu Sofeah budak baik~

Friday, November 7, 2008

The day Sofeah was born~

~Thursday, 30th October 2008~

Me and hubby went to work like any other day. We did not expect anything special to happen on this day. So every thing we did that morning was just normal. We woke up, get ready to work, had breakfast and drove off to work. First stop was to send hubby to Mont Kiara then I drove off to Bandar Tasik Selatan.

As I did my work that day(not that much really) my back pains a little then it gradually becomes stronger. At first I tried to bear the pain as I thought it was something normal and everybody goes through it during pregnancy. The weird thing is that I did not feel the back ache for the last 4 months and suddenly it hit me the day before actually but not as strong as I felt that day. So anyway, after feeling soo much pain I told hubby that I wanted to go to the clinic and get an MC for the day and also for Friday. Hubby said if I were to go to the clinic I should pick him up first then go, so that's what I did.

Before leaving my work place I did think for a second that it was nothing and I should stay until office hours ended but hubby urged me to go to the clinic to make sure everything was ok .So I went to see the HR personnel for my maternity leave and also to tell her that I will take an MC for the rest of the day. As my due date was coming closer hubby feels more nervous and worries about my health.

Driving to hubby's work place was not that easy. I drove slow but at the same time I wanted to reach Mont Kiara as soon as possible as my back ache worsen. Thank God, as I reached hubby's work place hubby was already waiting for me and I do not need to wait for him like before.

Then it's hubby's turn behind the wheel, we chatted like we always do and from time to time hubby will ask about my condition. It was a 45 minutes drive to Bangi. I was not soo much in pain as hubby comforted me. When we reached Az-Zahra Bangi we went straight to the first floor and said that I want to check my stomach (saya nak check perut) and the nurse said, "Owh CTG, naik tingkat tiga" so we went up. I did not know at that time why I mentioned my stomach instead of my back ache. Up stairs we can see a glass walled room with babies inside. When I saw them I had a thought, "bile la baby aku nak kuar ni, berat dah ni". Because I had a back ache I went and sat down at the bench whilst waiting for the nurse prepare the equipment. Hubby at that time still watched the babies behind the glass wall because he really liked babies and could not get his eyes off them. I guess at that time he was imagining his own baby to be there as well.

When everything was ready, we went in the room and the nurse attached me with the machine. We were told to stay there for ten minutes. At that moment I could not even wait for one minute lying flat on my back as I felt like my breathing were cut off. I had trouble breathing. I felt like I was going to faint until the nurse gave me an extra pillow, only then I can breath a little but still I had to lay side ways. Before we know it, we had been in the room for half an hour and the nurse still did not attended us yet. Hubby did not know what to do. When he went out the room the place was bare. He did not know who to call so we just waited.

The nurse finally came, I was relieved. The machine had spitted out a long piece of paper with details of my contraction and also the baby's heartbeat. The nurse did not know how to read the paper so we were asked to go downstairs to consult the doctor. When we reached the first floor we had to wait and the nurse said the doctor had gone home. So, the nurse panicked and she called another nurse. When the other nurse came in, this is what she said "Eh, kenape suruh patient turun jumpe doctor, doctor dah balik la. Pergi cari bidan untuk bace kalau takde pape suruh jer diorg ni balik je"(ekspresi muke memang macam siot jer..haha) when I overheard this conversation hati tu terase jugak la, ingat kite ni main-main ke sakit tapi at the same time relieved kalau suruh balik ok lagi la kan, tunggu Isnin baru bersalin.

Then suddenly the doctor came in. She was from upstairs from one of the wards and has not gone home yet. She took a look at the chart then said "come-come doctor nak check, kerap sangat dah contraction ni" so I followed her into the room. In my head I thought "huh? contraction?bile pulak?sakit belakang ade la". She asked me to lay on the table so she could check how much I've dilated. When she put her hands in me I felt like I wanted to pee. It did not hurt that much. Then she said "masya'Allah, dah bukak 4cm pon. Nurse, siapkan ward untuk dia dan juga labour room". When she said this I can see hubby's face somewhat shocked and at the same time happy because in a few hours we'll have a new member of the family. Because I hadn't had my lunch yet and was soo hungry at that time, hubby asked the doctor whether we can go out to eat, and she said yes. It will take time until it gets to 10cm.

Before going out to lunch hubby went to settle things at the ward. in other words check me in a room. As I waited for him I sat down next to this women holding a one month baby boy. She was rather friendly. She Asked me when I was due and I said that very same day. She then described her experience delivering her baby. The way she described it was very scary and very-very hurtful. It did gave me chills a little bit but then I know hubby will be there with me in the room and I have faith that everything will not be as scary as it may seem.

When hubby finally settled everything at the ward we headed straight at a shop nearby. I ordered laksa(big mistake). As we were waiting for the order hubby contemplated whether he should go home or not to get some stuff. In the end he decided to go. So I ate lunch alone. I did not finish the laksa as I could not bare the pain plus knowing that I was 4cm dilated scared me a little and so I went straight to the ward. Owh whilst I ate alone the women I met earlier some came in the shop to grab a bite and when she saw me she still talked about the pains of delivery. Dalam hati benkek jer. Dah pikir macam-macam. Orang ni betul ke tidak ni. Nak menakutkan orang je keje. Pelik-pelik betul manusia kat dunia ni.

Everything happened so quickly and I had no time to reply hubby's message. Hubby constantly asked for my update so he would not miss a thing. I told hubby to drive safe and not to rush but knowing his wife is in labour he had to drive fast(read up wunslife if you want to know about this part).

When I reached the ward I headed straight to the toilet as I felt something funny coming out from down there. What I discovered was blood. I panicked a little bit but then I am at the hospital so why should I panic. I also had a stomach ache probably because of the laksa(an advice to those whom is about to deliver please do not eat laksa before hand..hehe). It was too spicy. After everything settled in the toilet I came out and a nurse came into the room. She gave those hospital gown for me to wear and she said she will come in again to take me to the labour room. Then another nurse came in. She gave me some medication to clear out anything I have in me. In otherwords to make me poop so that I would not poop whilst pushing the baby out. As the time got closer I felt scared as hubby was not there yet I kept on looking at the door, fear for the nurse to take me away without hubby beside me(a little bit dramatic but that's how i really felt that time). I kept on praying that hubby would reach the hospital in time(during this time i kept on looking out the window for hubby). I do not want him to miss anything and want him to be with me in the labour room.

Because hubby was not there yet. I told the nurse that I wanted to do my Asar prayer first. Hubby texted me 'doa panjang2 tau' just to delay things. He wanted to go in the labour room with me. I told him to relax and if I were to go in the labour room before he reached there I don't think I will be giving birth yet. Many people stayed in labour room up to 22 hours and yet they still have not given birth yet. When I prayed, I took my time and doa a lot. who knows what might happen while I give birth. I got really scared at this point. I kept on thinking about the videos that me and hubby had seen, the images was in my head. I could not picture myself like that and so the way out is to always be reminded of Allah. Selawat byk2 and also baca sifat2 Allah(that Raihan song).

Then hubby reached the hospital, we delayed going to the labour room again as I waited hubby to perform his prayer. I know he prayed for me as well. Both me and hubby were scared and excited at this point. We both do not know what to expect.

In the labour room, first with hubby then my mother came in. Bersalaman dengan ibu untuk mintak maaf sebelum bersalin agar permudahkan lagi perjalanan. Then my mother in law came to see me. I did the same, ask for forgiveness. I was then given some medication so that my contraction pain will be more in order. That's what the nurse said. It was maghrib at that time and so I prayed on the bed as I could not move and also I was attached to a machine. Again at this point I prayed a long time. The back pain no longer there but was replaced by the contraction pain slowly hitting me.

When the contraction got stronger and constant all i did was selawat banyak-banyak. Hubby beside me read out the doa bersalin(It was pasted on the wall in the labour room) and I repeated after him. I tried to take my mind off the pain and think about something else but I just could not. Owh, and the medication that the nurse gave me earlier made me a little bit drowsy. Because of this it did take my mind of the pain from time to time as I felt like it was a dream and also a little bit mamai at the time.

Just after I performed my maghrib prayer. The doctor came in. She broke my water bed using this long stick. I did not feel that much pain. I felt like I just peed when the water came rushing out of me. The doctor was kind of shocked. I think because there were too much water in me. hubby just watched silently(I think he was too in shock).

The nurse said if at anytime I feel like I wanted to poop just tell her because that will be the sign for me to give birth. When the time did come I told her and she called in the doctor.By this time I have dilated about 9cm. That was quick, I thought. Then the doctor asked whether I wanted to pee and I said yes so she inserted a long tube attached to a bag. the liquid just came out without any effort from me.

I know it was time to push out the baby as the first strongest contraction occur I did make an indication or rather a sound like it was very painful and the doctor said everytime I feel the pain I have to push as hard as I can. the first few pushes were not good enough as I was getting the hang of it. plus for the baby to come out I had to push more harder and at the same time with the longest breath ever. Since I can not take long breaths this becomes a difficult task for me. As I pushed hubby beside me non stop giving me kata-kata semangat and also comforted me so that I would not give up. I did have a thought to give up at one point but I still tried on pushing. I was at that time in the state of sleepy and also exhausted at the same time. I think I was hungry too. The doctor and even the nurses bagi kata2 semangat at the time. There were many voices but I did not know how many people were actually watching me pushing. At the time I pushed, I can't remember how many times as the first few I did not do it correctly and the baby's head kept coming in and out of me because I did not have enough breaths or rather I only had short breaths to push. Kesian juga kat die. It got to the point where the doctor said if I weren't able to push anymore she would use the vacuum to suck the baby out. I did not want that to happen so I gave it a one last big push and the baby did come out. In between the pushes I did hear that the doctor was having trouble with the baby - it's not turning. The head came out first and when the body's turn to come out the doctor said something like "die tak nak pusing la" I did not know what she meant but I panicked a little bit, nothing I can do. Suara orang disekeliling pon mula tenggelam timbul. Khayal sungguh.

It was one final push after that the whole baby came out and the doctor put the baby on my chest. because I was too drowsy and sleepy I just hold the baby(hubby said I had a blurr face on at this moment), I could not remember much in detail what happened. I did not even get the chance to look at the baby's face. All I could remember was I saw the doctor cut the umbilical cord and then the baby was transferred to another place for them to clean her up. The baby cried on top of her lungs. I thought it was normal but the doctor seemed worried. She said something like "baby ni ade masalah bernafas ni. Dia tak sepatutnye menangis macam ni". I worried soo much, one after another. ade jer masalahnya. Tapi disebabkan terlalu mengantuk dan penat semuanya bagaikan mimpi pada masa itu. Saya pon redha je la.

The pushing part was over. pheww. Then came the second hardest part which is stitching me up. I tell you it hurts like crazy. They had to put me on bius so I dun feel that much. The doctor took quite sometime. When she was done for the first time, yeah, I repeat the first time she found out that something was wrong and she did it all over. At that time tuhan saja la tau bertapa tabahnye insan yang kat labour room ni.huhue. Sakit sungguh.

After the stitching part done and I'm still covered with blood down there. My bleeding did not stop. They just tied those maternity pads on me and that's it. I was transferred to the ward using another bed. The feeling as I lay on the bed was indescribable as I was still drowsy, I felt like macam orang sakit betul la. Badan sangat-sangat lemah dan sengal-sengal. Rase macam nak tdo jer terus tapi ramai pulak orang disekeliling and I tried my best to stay awake. After the hardwork I felt hungry as well, so to stayed awake I ate a little. My mother suapkan bubur ayam mcd.hehe. Kuar2 dari labour room jer makan mcd. Lemah longlai betul badan time tu. Alhamdulillah semuanya selamat dan sudah berlalu.

I can not recall when a nurse came asking me whether I wanted to breastfeed my child or they would give her formula milk instead. I chose to breastfeed her. The nurse asked"ada susu ke tak ni?" I answered "ade". Tiba-tiba sahaja I showed her the milk and she said "owh, banyak". Deep inside I was happy and also grateful(Alhamdulillah). I want the very best for my newborn. The basic thing she needs now is her mother's milk.

Eventhough I was dead tired that night I still could not sleep well. I guess I got used to waking up in the middle of the night whilst I was pregnant. Everytime I woke up, which is like every hour, I would look at hubby and the baby. Both were tired aswell. Hubby also did not sleep well that night. From time to time the nurse would come in and check up on me and the baby.

Well this is all that I can share. There maybe a lot of missing parts that I can not recall maybe because I was too drowsy at the time and also it took me two weeks just to complete this entry. I have been busy lately with the newborn. To other women out there, It might seem scary when you listen to other peoples story about giving birth. Don't be scared as no one will have the same experience as the other. Like me, this whole experience was a bliss. I would love to go through it anytime over and over.

To my daughter, sofeah: Semoga menjadi anak yang solehah. Aammmiiiinn~

Smile Alwayz =)

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

~Emotional me~

I really do not know WHY???!!~

I cry for every little thing,

I feel really tired even though I'm doing nothing,

I ate a lot lately and continuing eating a lot,

Sometimes, I have a lot of energy to do a lot of the house work around the house

Sometimes, I'm just weak

There are times when I have all the time in the world to rest but my body just refuses to rest. I always want to go out and walk. Doing nothing at home makes the body even more tired.

Whatever it is I think I'm still strong and I know I am. Maybe a little bit scared but I know I can go through this. It is my pregnant hormones(i don't know if this term exist but I'll use it anyway) that makes me do such thing.

My body is exhausted from my daily routine, my back aches, my stomach cramps comes and goes(getting stronger by the day), my baby inside me keeps on kicking as if there is no more space for it to grow, and the contractions sometimes makes it harder for me to even walk or get out of bed, the stomach will harden from time to time(bloated macam ikan butal)..

Are these the signs of labour? I really don't know. This is my first time. What should I expect?What should I do?When is the time I should urge hubby to rush me to the hospital?Is it time?The time is ticking. The anticipation is killing me. Guess I'll just have to wait patiently~

The time will come~

~Smile Alwayz =)

Sunday, October 26, 2008

My sincere apology before the journey~

My due date is getting closer though I'm scared of what to come but at the same time I cannot wait for that big day to arrive. All I know is that I might have difficulties in going through this journey but at the end of the day I'll be the most happiest person to see our new member of our family. It will be hubby, me and the baby.

This is an entry to all my friends out there, before I go through this journey I would like to express my sincere apology to all of you. The things that I might have done or said to hurt any of you whether on purpose or not, I truly am sorry for that. Hope you can forgive me.

To all my friends out there please pray for my journey to be a blissful one. Thanks to all that have been giving me support through out. Will keep you guys and gals updated. I still have more or less 2 weeks before my due date. Until then I'll be preparing my self mentally and spiritually for this big journey.

Smile Always =)

Friday, October 24, 2008

Looking into the Mirror~

Last night we received our new furniture..yea!(at long last..). It was our new bedroom set. The set comes with, of course a bed, 2 side tables, a wardrobe and a dressing table together with a stool. The dressing table had a large mirror attached to it which is great because we did not even have a mirror in our bedroom before and only a small mirror which is hung beside an intercom next to the kitchen(I can only see my face in it and not the whole body, plus I'm short and hubby hung it a little bit high for me since he's tall). Since we did not have a mirror in the bedroom I did not have that much time to look myself in the mirror and could not careless how I look like. All I know is that I'm this pregnant women with a belly and that's all. I take mirrors for granted really.

So yesterday was the first time I looked myself in the mirror and saw this huge belly in front of me. I could not believe my eyes as before I only can see the top view. So anyways, it's huge, it's humongous, it's massive. People have been telling me about how huge my belly is but I thought they were exaggerating but now I know that it is as huge as how they said it. I was really shocked and speechless. I stared at the image for quite some time. I just could not believe the size of it. It also made me wonder how my belly can stretch that far out, where did all the extra skin come from? I mean i really had a flat tummy before and now it's bloated..heh..teruk betul..terpana jugak la kejap tengok diri sendiri besar ni besar betul rupanya...or maybe it's because I have a small figure I guess..

The effects of seeing my huge belly is now that I'm feeling a little bit scared. The fear that I had months before came back to haunt me. I kept on wondering whether I can deliver this baby the normal way or by C-section. Owh how I soo wonder how I can give birth the normal way. How eh to push the baby out?..huhue. This is my first time and the fear of delivering a child is quite normal as I don't know what to expect. Feeling scared for that day to come and yet I can't wait for it to come and get it over and done with..hmm. Still counting the days~

Smile Always =)

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Many sleepless nights~

Yup as usual and like every other nights I will wake up around 2am to 3am in the morning to go to the toilet and after that getting back to sleep is practically impossible. There are some other nights where I will wake up two to three times just to go to the toilet. Seriously where does all this liquid come from? I don't think I drank that much either. It's good that every time nature calls I Will be awake by it, there are some who just let it out on the bed..hehe..I think..

It is really difficult or rather painful for me to get out of bed sometimes because of the cramps that comes and goes. I have to move really slowly as I don't want to be in more pain and at the same time trying to keep it in until I reach the toilet is quite a task. As people know pregnant women really have weak bladder and also they could not hold it for a long period, so when they feel like they need to go then they need to go..

Talking about last night. As usual went to the toilet around 2.30am then tried going back to sleep..which is impossible because I think the baby is not comfortable and it kept on moving...punching and kicking here and there..I don't know what to do..I kept on tossing and turning trying to get comfortable but i could not and the hot flushes did not help either. I was sweating and the fan is just right in front of me..what an irony..there is also the feeling that I thought I was going to be in labour because of the weird pains that i felt around my tummy and I also waited if there is any signs of me getting in labour such as strong contractions and liquid plus blood coming out down there..until then I did not want to wake hubby as i don't want him to worry too much..thankfully around 3.30am I think I got back to sleep..

And now because of what happened last night, I feel sleepy, tired and at the same time I have a splitting headache..trying really hard to focus until 4.30pm today..I have a strong will to come to work everyday until the day I'm in labour and at the same time my body is telling me to start taking leave because it's getting tired by the day and it needs a lot of rest and sleep..maybe it's time for me to take the leave..what do you think?

I don't want to take my maternity leave early as I want to spend more time at home after giving birth..huhue..I think I can still go to work...hhmm..well people before me did it..why can't I...

Just like to mention, this morning hubby with a happy tone told me about his dream...he had dreamt that I've already given birth to a beautiful daughter named sofeah..kate2 wan "comel betul anak kite, muka macam you..xda muka cam I sangat pon..muka cam you campur dengan muka biena(anak buah die)..".. macam-macam la suami tercinta ni..betul-betul tidak sabar menunggu kelahiran ahli keluarga baru..I'm soo happy to know that my beloved husband is happy and I know that our daughter will be beautiful in every way..Insya'Allah

Smile Alwayz =)

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

~MY thoughts before,during and after~

As you might know from hubby's blog, we've just organised our first jamuan raya come housewarming party last Saturday. All we can say that it was a success even though tiring but we had a lot of fun meeting our familes and friends. thanks to all that came bagi memeriahkan keadaan and maaf la ye umah tu besar sangat(me being sarcastic..hehe) not enough to accommodate some..ade yg dok luar pon(wun's friends) and alsodekat pintu dapur(also wun's friends) kesian...

Anyways, these were my thoughts that I would like to share before, during and after the jamuan raya...

BEFORE: Waktu ni lepak-lepak lagi sambil susun-susun makanan atas meja..mandi pon tak lagi dalam pukul 9.30am(lepas tue kelam kabut pi mandi and main capai jer baju sennag utk dipakai, tue yg selekeh sket tue..hee)..first session pukul 10am "Waahhh~ banyak nye makanan ni...ramai ke orang nak datang ni?risaunye..kalau tak habis macam mane..huhue..."

DURING: Ni time second session..1pm..pick hour, orang sume tengah kebulur nih"EH, makanan makin sikit ni..nak buat ape..Alamak! cawan pon dah habis..kene kuarkan cawan dari gerobok ni..Uiiihh, ais pon dah habis...minum air suam-suam je la ye"...maaf!~
(Aku pon dok la keluar masuk dapur basuh cawan orang dah guna dan susun balik atas meja..pheww)

TOWARDS THE END:Dalam pukul 5pm..."huuu, penatnye badan ni..rase macam nk tido jer"..(terlelap jugak atas sofa..nasib dah xde tetamu) Around 6 plus a friend and hubby datang..layan la mereka..

AFTER: Our jamuan raye ended around 7pm but my uncle and family came around 9pm so kene la layan jua..nasib ade my parents kalau tidak pengsan la..penat tue memang tidak terkata..sabar je la..owh forgot to mention that my mom masak nasi tomato pulak untuk makan malam..hehe..mmg makanan byk habis my thoughts after the jamuan "pheww, lega dah abis..esok kene mengemas pula..huhue..nasib byk makanan dah habis kalau tidak kan dah membazir..heh"

So that's all folks..sorry to those that I forgot to invite for the jamuan..insya'Allah if we do it again next year remind me to invite you people k..hehe..~MAAF ZAHIR BATIN~

p/s: thanks faha for the pic..i grabbed it from your facebook..hope you don't mind..hehe..this picture was taken with his dslr canon EOS 40d camera(I think that's the model)..dead jealous...owh n me ternganga la pulak..xready lagi k...

Smile Alwayz =p

Monday, October 20, 2008

BPA-free bottles for babies..

Just something that i read from yesterdays the star all mother to be please be aware of this..i've bought MAMs bottles..hehe..which is BPA wise when shopping for newborns as they are sensitive to a lot of things especially with today's environment..better be safe than sorry.. =)

Sunday October 19, 2008 MYT 4:58:00 PM
Canada to ban baby bottles with chemical

TORONTO (AP): Canada has declared a chemical widely used in food packaging a toxic substance and will move to ban the sale in Canada of plastic baby bottles containing bisphenol A.

The toxic classification, issued in Saturday's Canada Gazette, makes Canada the first country to classify the chemical commonly used in the lining of food cans, eyeglass lenses and hundreds of household items, as risky.

The federal ministries of Health and the Environment said Saturday that bisphenol A may be entering the environment in a quantity or under conditions that may pose a danger to Canadians.

Health Minister Tony Clement said a report on bisphenol A has found the chemical endangers people, particularly newborns and infants, citing concerns that the chemical in polycarbonate products and epoxy linings can migrate into food and beverages.

Newborns and infants are particularly vulnerable because of their frequent use of baby bottles that often contain the chemical, which is used to harden plastic and make it shatterproof.

The health and environment departments said Saturday that the government plans to restrict the importation, sale and advertising of bottles made with bisphenol A, known as BPA.

"Many Canadians ... have expressed their concern to me about the risks of bisphenol A in baby bottles,'' said Canada's Environment Minister John Baird in a statement. "Today's confirmation of our ban on BPA in baby bottles proves that our government did the right thing in taking action to protect the health and environment for all Canadians.''

The government is also proposing "to allow the lowest amount of BPA as reasonably achievable in infant formula cans'' and all foods in general. Its risk management plan said it would aim for "stringent'' targets for infant formula cans.

The biggest concern with this widely used chemical, traces of which can be found in more than 90 percent of Americans, has been over BPA's possible effects on reproductive development and hormone-related problems. It has also been linked to cancer in animals.

However, the chemical industry maintains that polycarbonate bottles contain little BPA and leach traces considered too low to harm humans.

"Consumer products made from polycarbonate plastic and epoxy resins, including products for infants and children, are accepted as safe for use by regulatory agencies around the world,'' Steven G. Hentges, the executive director, Polycarbonate/BPA Global Group of the American Chemistry Council, said Saturday in a statement commenting on Canada's decision.

The scientific debate over BPA could drag on for years. The European Union and the U.S. Food and Drug Administration say the chemical is safe. But the FDA is awaiting word from a scientific panel expected to deliver an independent risk assessment later this month.

Several U.S. states are considering restricting BPA use, some manufacturers have begun promoting BPA-free baby bottles, and some stores are phasing out baby products containing the chemical.

Wal-Mart Canada and other major retailers in Canada in recent months have begun removing BPA-based food-related products such as baby bottles and sipping cups from store shelves.

So to all momies out there..beli la bottle yang BPA-free ye..list of bottles that i know BPA free adalah MAM, pigeon glass bottles and nuby..Avent bkn BPA free be careful..
Sebenarnya, jika beli bottle yang jenama or dari plastic biasa pun tidak mengapa tetapi kena tukar dengan kerap dan kalau ada nampak scratch pada botol tu cepat2 la tukar sebab dari situ la bahan kimia yang tidak elok leak dalam susu anak...
Anyways, search la lagi ye pasal bottle yang BPA free ni..bukannye ape we just want the safest things for our children that's all..

Smile alwayz =)

Friday, October 17, 2008

Ape lagi yang TIDAK cukup?

Kenapalah kite sentiasa rase ada saja benda yang tidak cukup and tidak pernah atau lupa untuk menghargai ape yang sedia ada didepan mata? Mengapakah pandangan kite slalu dikaburi dengan nafsu? Nafsu dan kehendak kite akan slalu menyesatkan diri, dan membuatkan kite rase tidak tenang dihati. Ada saja benda yang kita mahu. Kita ni bagaikan hamba kepada kehendak diri ini.

Saya sendiri tidak terlepas dari kehendak diri..ada saja kemahuan dan jika tidak dapat mula lah saya rasa sedih dan marah. Suami pula jadi tempat saya lepaskan geram..kesian suami kene pujuk dan bersabar dengan kerenah ini..

Apa yang saya ada sekarang ni sudah cukup sebenarnya dah lebih dari tu kire nak hidup mewah sahaja tapi ialah manusia sering lupa dan sentiasa hendak lebih dari kemampuan dirinya sendiri.

Kepada suami tercinta, terima kasih kerana mengingatkan saya untuk bersyukur dan tidak perlu layan sangat kehendak nafsu.. terima kasih juga kerana mengingatkan saya apa yang saya mahu kerana nafsu adalh tidak baik untuk diriku dan juga untuk anak kita.. Terima Kasih Suamiku.. Saya sentiasa akan beringat selepas ini dan tidak lagi akan meragam macam budak 5 tahun..betul cakap awak "please remember, you're my wife" dan "i'm still your husband"..Maaf kadang2 tue terkasar dengan awak..bukan saya sengaja tapi bile perasaan marah tu timbul suka saja bertindak mengikut perasaan tanpa mengendahkan perasaan awak..

Akhir kata,
Saya sangat bersyukur kerana saya ada suami seperti awak yang cukup bersabar dan sentiasa memberi peringatan kepada saya..bukan semua yang kita nak kita boleh dapat..Apa yang kita ade kita patut bersyukur..

Saya Sangat mencintai awak Syazwan Rahimy dan saya akan sentiasa mengingati pesananmu akan datang..Awak adalah suami mithali dan saya percaya awak juga akan jadi ayah mithali kepada anak-anak kita nanti..Tidak ada benda lain lagi yang saya perlukan cuma kasih sayang dari awak~

Smile Alwayz =)

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

~update on mandi wiladah~

Just like to share with everyone what my friend commented on my past post..please2 take this seriously. Thank you soo much to Dur for the info.

dur ni..nk kongsi sedikit ilmu pasal mandi wiladah..harap dpt membantu =)

Memang betul kenyataan tentang 'Mandi Wiladah' itu..... kami telah bertanyakan hal ini kepada ustazah kita orang last month. MasyaALLAH , betapalah jahilnya kita ini.... tapi according to Uztazah ini , kita
memang kena niat dlm hati mandi wajib itu adalah Mandi Wiladah dan tidak boleh kira overall saja.
Sapa-sapa yg lepas bersalin dan belum lagi mengangkat Mandi Wiladah ini maka segala solat & puasanya selama ini tidak akan diterima oleh ALLAH…Nahuzubillah'minzaliq…Wallahua'lam

Oleh itu kita kenalah meminta ampun dari ALLAH S.W.T kerana tidak mengetahui akan perkara ini , kerana sesungguhnya ALLAH Maha Pengampun Lagi Maha Mengetahui. Utk pengetahuan semua, perkara ini telah diajukan oleh saudari kita Ernie Shamsudin semasa sessi mengaji Quran tempoh hari dan disaksikan oleh saya & juga Anisah Ghazi....

Wajib atas kita untuk memberitahu saudara-saudari kita yg langsung tidak tahu akan hal ini.....

Perkara penting yang most women tell you the truth..I've talked to several ladies...and kebanyakkannya semua tak tahu yang there exists mandi after bersalin nie...bukan mandi after darah nifas kering tapi mandi after bersalin..a separate hadas besar...reason being sekiranya ajal menjemput sebelum darah nifas kita kering, kita sudah berada di dalam keadaan bersuci...

Sewaktu dalam sembang-sembang kecil saya merasa agak terperanjat apabila ada diantara ibu-ibu yang mengatakan mereka tak tahu yang mereka wajib mandi hadas selepas melahirkan anak. Ini kerana ada yang confuse, mereka ingat mandi hadas hanya selepas darah nifas habis. Para bapa langsung la sebab mereka kata, bukan mereka yang beranak... MasyaAllah. Kan ke tugas suami tu membimbing isteri..ini perkara Feqah yang wajib diketahui oleh semua orang.

Ada lagi yang kata sebab masa berpantang tak boleh basah rambut, takut masuk angin.

Saya terfikir balik, selama ini saya take for granted dan assume semua orang tahu. kadang-kadang timbul rasa bersalah kerana tidak ambil inisiatif untuk mengingatkan para bapa/ bakal bapa dan para ibu/bakal ibu. Jadi di sini saya nak ambil kesempatan supaya kita ingat mengingati dan kebetulan ramai juga para netters yang sedang menanti kelahiran cahaya mata.

Perkara Wajib mandi hadas besar;

Bagi lelaki 2 perkara:
1. keluar air mani
2. berjimak, waimah berjimak kerana berzina pun kena juga mandi. Tak keluar mani pun kena mandi juga.
Bagi perempuan:

1, Haid
2. Wiladah (melahirkan anak)
3. Nifas
4. Berjimak, waimah berjimak kerana berzina pun kena juga mandi.

Rasanya setakat mandi selepas haid dan berjimak tu semua orang tahu. Yang selalu wanita confuse (apatah lagi lelaki) ialah berkaitan dengan kelahiran. Selepas melahirkan anak setiap wanita ISLAM kena mandi:

1. Mandi hadas kerana melahirkan (WILADAH. Yakni, sebaik sahaja kepala bayi keluar.
2. Mandi hadas habis nifas (darah yang keluar selepas bersalin) maka diwajibkan mandi hadas.

menurut ustazah, niat mandi boleh pakai satu sahaja, tak perlu spesifik. Cuma niatkan:

'Sahaja aku mandi hadas besar ke atas tubuhku yang diwajibkan ke atas ku kerana Allah Taala'.
Tula saya teringat orang tua-tua kita tak kasi org dalam pantang tu mandi basahkan kepala, takut masuk anginla, sejukla... saya terfikir balik, takkan suruhan agama sanggup diketepikan semata-mata nak jaga pantang. Lagipun mandi wajib selepas melahirkan tu SEKALI je setiap kelhairan..katalah anda seorang yang betul-betul kuat berpantang.. dalam masa 40/60 hari tu, cuma sekali je mandi basah rambut, bukan tiap-tiap hari Mandilah dengan air panas... kita tak suruh mandi dng air sejuk.. cuma pastikan air tu tak jadi air musta'mal. Itu sahaja.

Jadi, bakal ibu dan bakal bapa, harap tak ambil remeh perkara ini. Yang lelaki tu ingatkanlah isteri-isteri anda dan adik-adik pompuan. dan yang pompuan tu ingatkanlah diri anda dan sedara-sedara pompuan yang lain..InsyaAllah

Mungkin bagi sesetengah orang yang kata ini soal 'remeh' (walaupun ini sebenarnya tak remeh) dapat dikongsi dan diamalakan bersama.
(senior dur hantar melalui emel)
takecare :)

~take note ya especially if you are expecting a baby anytime soon~

Smile Alwayz =)

Monday, October 13, 2008

Just something about me..the survey~

The longest survey you'll ever fill out! Do the world a favor: fill it out and post it for all your friends. Do this because the person who filled it out before you didn't sit here for ages for nothing. Answer all the questions honestly, no lying to avoid stuff.
Starting time:
• 9:23 AM
• Faridatul Bariza Binti Md. Nasir
Shoe size:
• 4 or 5 but since i'm pregnant i wear a size 6(hippo feat)
What are you wearing right now?
• the traditional baju kurung
Where do you live?
• at work
Favorite Number/s
• 8, 11, 24
Favorite Drinks:
• plain water, juice(any type)
Favorite Months:
• January? (my birthday..hahah)

***********Have You Ever***********
Been in a bath tub:
• of course..everyday since my house have one
Swam in the ocean:
• yup..but hate it
Fallen asleep in school:
• dozens of front of the lecturer in fact..huhue
Broken someone's heart:
• sure have..did it for the better
Fell off your chair:
• sometimes..hardly..haha
Saved e-mails:
• used, just can't be bothered

***********What is************
Your room like:
• clean..hubby can't stand messes
What's right beside you?
• paperwork..huhue
What is the last thing you ate?
• last nite?..carrot, i'm fasting

------------Ever Had-------------
Chicken pox:
• of course..
Sore throat:
• sure have
• yup, on my forehead (accidently cut myself with a kitchen knife..hey, i was 5 then..hehe)
Broken nose:
• not yet..hehe

-----------Do You-----------
Believe in love at first sight?
• sure do..that' how i ended up with hubby
Like picnics:?
• love it..

Who was the last person you danced with?
• hubby..hehe..atleast we tried to..hikhik
Who last made you smile?
• him soo much
Who did you last yell at?
• no one yet even though i'm quite emotional these days due tue my due date commin up..huhue..

----------Final Questions-------------
Hate someone in your family?
• sure them all..miss them too..huhue
Diamond or pearl?
• diamond of course
Are you the Eldest?
• sure am

-------Today did you-----------
Talk to someone you like?
• yup...hubby..every morning
Kiss anyone?
• yup..before going to the shower
Get sick?
• sick?..nope..just the normal contration from time to time..huhue
Talked to an ex:
• ahaha..nope..why would i want to do that..hmm
Miss someone:
. sure do..hubby an family..huhue

----------Last person who----------
You talked to on the phone?
• no one yet for today

Have a crush on someone:?
• on hubby?..hehe
What books are you reading right now?
. it's been ages since i've read one.the next weekend will go to mph and buy a book..hehe
Best feeling in the world:
• falling in love and delivering a beautiful baby into this world(can't wait for this day to come even though i'm scared to death)
Future kids names?
• have 2..but not telling yet..hehe..some may know
Do you Sleep with stuffed animals?
• ahaha..nope..totally hate it..
What's under your bed?
• nothing since i dun have one..our mattress is on the floor..hehe..
Favorite locations:
• home sweet home..
Danced a slow dance with someone you didn't even like?
• if i dun like the person why waste my time and dance with them?
Who do you really hate?
• no one at this moment..unhealthy to hate..spread the love..
Ever liked someone you didn't have a chance with?
• like who?..chad Michael murray?..hehe
You lonely right now?
• nope..i've never been lonely since i'm married..even if i'm alone i have this baby inside me all the time..hehe

What time is it now?
• 9.33 AM